I attended an event industry luncheon this week, and sat next to a professional (not a wedding professional) who also happened to be in the midst of planning her own wedding. Upon learning I was a wedding photographer, she confessed to me that choosing her photographer had been the most difficult decision of all of her wedding planning thus far. She further clarified her difficulty was not that she couldn’t find something she liked, but that the process was completely overwhelming as she found so many great photographers. But, she said, after looking at several websites, everything looked the same to her, she had no idea which one to choose. She eventually turned to the recommendations of other professional friends and her wedding coordinator to narrow down her choices to a manageable few.
In the end, she made a phone call to one on her narrowed down list, and after a ten minute conversation in which she felt like she clicked with the photographer on the other end of line, the bride stopped her search and hired that photographer. She never had a formal consultation- with anybody. It sounded to me like she didn’t have the time nor the interest in meeting with a bunch of people she didn’t intend to hire. (And you’re all screaming, “She’s not my bride! She couldn’t possibly care about her photography if she wouldn’t take the time to meet with potential photographers!!” I know, I know. But, the thing is, I never got the feeling that she didn’t care about her photography, or that she was taking the decision lightly. On the contrary, it seemed like it was very much an important decision to her. And it seemed like the whole thing stressed her out. She was a super busy person before she started planning her wedding, but, add the wedding planning to the mix, and now she’s a girl with no time to spare.
I asked her what would have made the whole process easier for her, and she said she would have loved to have a side-by-side comparison of all of the photographers out there, kind of like they do on on-line shopping sites. She was frustrated that everybody had wildly different prices, and everyone had wildly different package offerings, but she really couldn’t tell what the difference was.
Now, I would never venture to say that this one bride represents all brides out there. We all know that is not the case. But, I think there are a couple lessons to take away from this encounter:
1. The more options out there, the more things look the same, especially to someone who is not an expert in the subject matter. And most brides are not experts in wedding photography. Most plan but one wedding. Okay, sometimes more than one wedding, but still they have nowhere near the expertise and obsession that we have with the industry.
2. Brides are making major decisions about you before they ever get to any kind of personal interaction with you – phone, email or in person consultation. Some, like this bride, will make a decision about who they will hire without doing anything in person. And though some would say, “well, that’s not my bride then”, for all intents and purposes the bride in my story above appeared to be what most would describe as a desirable, high-end bride, or at least a high-middle bride. She was a well-educated, well-dressed professional in a high-level position who had hired a coordinator to assist with planning her wedding. In no way did she seem cheap to me. But she also didn’t seem like the kind of person who would overspend frivolously. She really had no idea why some photographers were charging $2,000 and some were charging $8,000, and I believe (though I did not ask) she ended up somewhere in the middle.
2. Brides are begging to see something that screams out to them “I’m the perfect photographer for you”. And all of the cliche lines that permeate most photographers websites are not cutting it.
3. If you leave it up to the brides, they would prefer for you to make it easier for them to compare you to everyone else. If they can’t quickly understand what makes you different, then they want a spreadsheet, so they can see what they’re getting from you at what price as it relates to what they’re getting from the other photographers. They want you to be like a car model, or a piece of electronic equipment. When everybody appears to be the same, they want to line you up and see which is the cheapest or the best value. This would be great for those of us that are the cheapest, if you’re not, and the brides reach the point of frustration where “all photographer look the same” (which I believes happens way faster than any of us would like to believe) all of the art and style, and pretty much anything besides the number of hours you’re there and the products you include go out the window. They stop thinking about what the pictures in the album look like, and think only about the album itself.
Wouldn’t you rather be incomparable?